How Do You Get Motivated?
Many times, motivation can be hard to find. We might be tired and just want to relax. We might feel stuck and unable to move forward. We might feel overwhelmed and think about giving up. Or any of a thousand other reasons.
The problem is that we often don’t know what’s holding us back. That lack of insight can make it difficult to overcome the issue.
We don’t want to ignore those little signals from our body or subconscious. Sometimes we need to sleep, relax, or play, and that’s okay. Sometimes we’re stuck because the story is going in the wrong direction, and we need to backtrack. And sometimes… What we really need is a kick in the pants. *smile*
Step 1: Figure Out What’s Causing the Resistance
When I find myself resisting doing something, I ask myself why. Once we understand the “why,” it’s usually easier to know how to fix the issue.
For example, let’s say we’re putting off doing something simply because it’s boring or not fun. If we’re procrastinating during drafting, that reason could be a clue that the scene might not be necessary or that we need more conflict.
But if that’s the case when we’re faced with a non-drafting task, we might simply have to suck it up. Marketing or editing or accounting might not be fun, but those tasks need to get done too.
(We can always set ourselves a goal of being able to afford paying someone to do some of those tasks for us later in our career, but until we reach that point, it’s all us. Sorry. *smile*)
Step 2: Figure Out What Motivates Us
None of us are perfect. We all stumble on the way to our goals. We all procrastinate (writers are expert procrastinators).
But at some point, we need to get serious. We might be more successful if we know how to get into that serious mode when it’s important.
Some writers find motivation in the social reward of knowing others are cheering for them. These writers might enjoy drafting in the social atmosphere of NaNoWriMo, Twitter’s #1k1hr, or one of the other writing groups in the blogosphere or social media. For non-writing tasks, maybe they have an accountability partner they report to with their progress.
Other writers find motivation from the stick of threats rather than the carrot of rewards. These writers answer to drafting programs like Write Or Die, which can be set to delete your words if you type too slow. For non-writing tasks, they might need deadlines with consequences hanging over their head.
Others find motivation in seeing tangible progress. For drafting tasks, these writers might write toward a daily word count and enjoy seeing their monitor fill with words. For non-writing tasks, they might enjoy scribbling items off a to-do list.
We also can take different paths to motivation with different tasks. Sometimes we might need a reward, and sometimes we might need the threat of punishment. The important thing is figuring out what works for us.
Step 3: Do What We Need to Do
Once we know the issue and know our needs, we do what we need to do. In other words, this step will often involve sucking it up and getting it done.
If we’re in need of a nap, that “getting it done” step might be a lot more fun than if we’re in need of coming up with a marketing plan. But if we know what motivates us, hopefully we’ll at least make progress on our project. Some progress is better than no progress, and we can try not to beat ourselves up too badly if we tried our best.
My Mixed Approach to Motivation
I respond to a mix of motivating forces. Social rewards sometimes work for me, deadlines definitely work for me, and breaking a big project into smaller chunks on a to-do list often helps.
On the social side, I enjoy NaNo and #1k1hr far more than Write Or Die for drafting. (Although to be honest, the social aspect, the progress calendar, and the one month deadline all appeal to me with NaNo.)
For non-writing tasks (or for drafting non-fiction like blog posts), I usually need a deadline hanging over my head. I present to you as evidence, my blog. *smile*
Almost every post on this blog was written the night before it went live. I simply can not find the motivation to write blog posts more than a day (or sometimes two) ahead. (I’d like to be one of those bloggers with a bank of completed posts to draw from when needed, but… *pshaw* That’s not going to happen.) I need deadlines for the “not as fun” stuff.
Other times, I work better when dividing a big project into smaller pieces. Big projects can be overwhelming, and we might not even know where to start. To-do lists can be great for seeing the dependencies and figuring out what needs to happen first.
I’m dealing with a couple of big projects now that are so overwhelming I’m too often procrastinating instead of making progress. I’m trying to break those projects down into smaller chunks. Then I’ll assign deadlines for each of those elements on a to-do list.
If It Works, It Works
Some people don’t like the last-minute feeling of deadline. Others suffer from poor quality work when stressed and under deadline. So I could easily feel like I’m “doing it wrong.”
But I’m going to stick with my approach because it works for me. After all, I have about 425 original posts and only a few re-runs in the four years of writing this blog. That’s 425 times I’ve met my deadline despite waiting until the threat of missing it is close enough to smack me upside the head.
Yesterday, I shared this image on Facebook with the note:
My deadlines might resemble this. 😉
Others commented on that post with notes like “I can relate to this.” So at least I’m not the only one. Yet whenever anyone asks me how I accomplish so much, I answer: “I flail randomly. I don’t recommend it.”
The point is figuring out what works for us. There’s no right or wrong way to motivate ourselves. Chocolate, wine, and movies or TV are frequent rewards for writers, and that works for some. Others need the threat of consequences. Still others need only an organized to-do list. Figure out what works and use it. *smile*
Do you sometimes struggle with finding motivation? Do you run into the same root cause, or does it change? Are you still searching for an approach that motivates you, or do you know what works? Does it depend on the circumstances? What works to motivate you?Pin It
The most consistently effective motivation method for me is for someone to contact me about something I’m doing without prompting, but I can’t control that. So if I relied on it, I’d get nothing done.
The #1 best motivation method for me is to mix it up. As in, motivation methods.
I adapt to things, at which point they lose effectiveness. I even have to change up where I sleep, and that “changes” thing applies to foods I can eat, too. It’s useful if I’m, say, traveling. I sleep great (even though food isn’t the easiest to find, since I’m allergic to things like rice, tomatoes, carrots, almonds, and stevia…for a start).
I even have multiple timers on my computer, because they all function a little differently, and I adapt to them, too.
Interesting! So for you, it’s almost like if you’re aware that it’s a “technique” to get you motivated, it doesn’t work. Based on your examples, I can only imagine how that trait makes things difficult for more than just writing. O.o
So I should randomly add “How are you doing on your projects?” to some of my comment replies to you? 😉 Thanks for sharing and thanks for the comment!
*laughs* ^_^ It’s one of the reasons I love Wattpad so much. Folks irregularly but frequently drop me comments or PMs.
But yeah, the adaption thing makes life difficult in general. Consistency actually seems to be one of my depression triggers. Or maybe it just leads to more brainpower being available to focus on depression triggers. Hard to tell. It’s certainly annoying.
Oh yes! I can see a platform like Wattpad working well for that. So while it’s not a perfect solution, you’ve at least found an approach that helps. 🙂 I’m glad to hear that!
Hmm, the social rewards is a big one for me—meeting people’s expectations that I will actually finish, edit, and publish my albeit very long work. And the social reward would be that people would go, “Omg, you finished a 1000+ page story, wow! And in your 2nd language! Wow!” Yeah, it’s really lame of me to be motivated by something like this, right? Haha. But a lot of people in my social circle tend to do that, so that encourages me. 😀
Deadlines would help, if only my story wasn’t so long…But probably I won’t need one more year to finish writing it!
A sense of productivity most certainly helps. I am very encouraged by the increase in page count and chapter count, haha.
No! Not lame at all! That works for many of us, and remember that there is no “wrong.”
Many people are “people pleasers” on some level. In fact, that same motivation keeps me from doing more re-run posts, as I want to meet people’s expectations about my blog content.
Yes! I understand what you mean about deadlines when things are so questionable because of length, complexity, or other reasons. I want to meet the deadline, so when I self-set deadlines, I want them to be do-able. But on really big projects, it’s harder to guess how long it would take. For projects with set tasks, we can break it up into known quantities, but that’s harder to do with a writing project like yours. 🙂 Good luck and thanks for the comment!
I’m amazed that your well-written posts are done the night before! Sheesh, that’s awesome.
I need motivation today! I just opened a manuscript that I haven’t seen in a while and I’m feeling overwhelmed. I know that soon I’ll break it down and just dive in, but as of this moment, I’m freaking out. But alas, it’s part of my process!
Aww, thanks! Again though, I wouldn’t recommend my “method” to others. I just happen to know that it works for me–at least in the case of blog posts. I definitely don’t like waiting until the last minute for other aspects.
Especially when I’m learning something new, I want to take the time to learn everything and do it right, so any stress in those situations would be bad for me. So it all depends. As you said, we just have to learn what works for us and our process. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!
Self-imposed deadlines don’t work with me; I know I can break them. Other people’s expectations just make me grumpy, and I don’t react well to being threatened with sticks.
What’s left? Carrots! (nom nom nom) As in: fill up this exercise book and you can get a new one. Finish this novel and you can buy a flash new fountain pen. But there are still times when I’d just rather sleep. Or read. And sometimes I’ve just got to let myself. After all, there’s no point living your dream if you’re not enjoying it!
LOL! I understand. I’m glad you’ve figured out what works for you. 🙂
And great point about needing to take the time to enjoy our life too. Life balance is important! Thanks for the comment!
great post, Jami, but find it hard to think you summoned it out of thin air in so short a time! I know it can happen, of course, but on a regular basis?
Maybe that’s why your blog is called ‘paranormal’ for that’s what I think is at work here!
Seriously though, I think motivation is the hardest element to get to grips with, for the strangest things can set it off. (Thank God! or whatever it is!)
LOL! at the paranormal explanation. Yeah, I started this post about 5pm Monday night. That’s later than I like to start actually, but… *shrug*
And you’re right that motivation can come from odd sources sometimes too. This morning, I woke up from a dream that I was late for a flight, so I’m starting off with an adrenaline rush. 😉 Thanks for the comment!
This is a great post and I’ve followed the links to the posts on getting unstuck and the 12 steps to coping with burnout. 🙂
I’m not sure writers actually need motivation, the more I think about it. Writers usually aren’t able to NOT write for very long. We rarely give up altogether.
Now, we definitely get stuck, and that’s different. Writers getting stuck is more of a signpost than anything else. Something is out of balance, either in their story or in their lives.
I’ve found that the best way to get past being stuck is to be gentle with myself. Find out what’s going on, brainstorm ways to correct my course, take action – small steps, and go easy on myself while I’m doing all this. Stress and anxiety makes everything worse. I come good a lot quicker if I just breathe and unwind and accept where I am. 🙂
Thank you again for another great post!
Very true! If we’re meant to be writers, we likely won’t give up permanently. 🙂 However, I know that I’m not always good about getting into gear whenever my schedule allows for writing time, and that’s a problem for my productivity.
So while you’re right that sometimes the resistance is due to us being stuck, sometimes it’s not. And for those latter circumstances I wanted to address how we could push forward. As you said, we might need to be gentle with ourselves, or we might need that kick in the pants. Hopefully once we have a better understanding of why we’re delaying, we’ll be able to figure out the best approach. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!
Ah, yes, I see what you mean, and perhaps there’s no chance to analyse what’s going on; there’s just time to sit down and get the writing done.
Reading books or articles on the craft of writing is usually a good motivator for me. I read something and see how I could apply it, or I play with a technique I’ve not tried before, or I want to respond to something I’ve read. Reading is rarely a challenge, so using it to kick start the writing is pretty much failsafe. 🙂
Yay! It sounds like you’ve figured out what works for you, and that’s what matters. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!
never thought of creating a business plan for our writing. I have done them in the past for the various enterprises we have undertaken, but can’t imagine how to do one now.
For a start , at my age, I am having enough fun (!!!) just coping with all the networking and promotion and wouldn’t know where to begin!
Hi Jaye and Anita,
Did you see that I just posted a Business Plan for Writers worksheet? I just used the template last week to come up with my business plan, so I can testify that it helps. 🙂 Good luck and thanks for the comment!
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