Are You Living Your Dream?

by Jami Gold on March 6, 2014

in Random Musings

Sunrays emerging from cloud with text: Are You Living Your Dream?

I needed to write the last couple of posts about finding a good editor and what it takes to be a good editor because I’ve seen and heard too many horror stories from authors who were misled by unqualified editors. I believe if an editor is going to take our money, they should be “good” at their job. Crazy idea, I know. *smile*

As I pointed out in the comments, if I’m going to pay an editor, I want them to do a better job at finding all the opportunities for improvement than a free beta reader could do. However…

Those posts also made me feel like a ranty-pants, so I needed to switch gears today. And luckily (or unluckily), I’ve had the perfect song stuck in my head (for days!) to cure me of the ranting and remind me that Everything Is Awesome!!!

(Raise your hand if you’ve had this song from The LEGO Movie stuck in your head for an obscene amount of time. And if not, here you go. You’re welcome, or I’m sorry, or something. *snicker*)

(YouTube link to “Everything Is AWESOME!!!” from The LEGO® Movie)

The lyrics to this song are—er, interesting. (“Rocks, clocks, and socks. They’re awesome!”)

But it’s the insanely catchy chorus that keeps playing in my head (over and over). The latter part of the chorus includes the line: Everything is awesome, when we’re living our dream.

And honestly, although the song is a subversive parody of the uber-teamwork attitude in the LEGO society, that part is true. Mostly.

(Not everything is awesome in a real-life dream. Taxes are still due, and that’s never awesome.)

My point is that if we’re living our passions, life is pretty darn good, especially compared to the alternative of a life devoid of passions. On the other hand, if we’re not living our passions, that might be because we don’t even know what they are.

Do You Know What Your Passions Are?

Most people reading this post are probably writers. For many of us, we know writing is our passion and figure we can skip this part. Or can we?

Even if we know writing is our passion, maybe we don’t know what kind of writer we want to be. Non-fiction or fiction? Short stories or long? What age category? What genre? What mood and tone? What voice?

I know many writers who struggle to find a genre that fits them. Sometimes the stories they love to read don’t fit them (like not having a Young Adult voice) and they wander adrift, wondering what they should do.

Worse, every month, I come across dead links or missing blogs for writer friends who gave up on their dream. Was it not really their passion? Did circumstances force them to move on to something else? Or did something make them fear they weren’t cut out for writing?

Kristen Lamb blogged yesterday about the danger of fear. Combined with the self-doubt that runs rampant in most writers, fear can turn our dreams into nightmares.

Reality vs. Dream: The Eternal Struggle

If writing is our passion and we’re able to write some amount, life should be good, maybe even awesome. Yet many of us struggle with self-doubt, and the day-to-day realities of our lives can quickly crush the sense of living our dream.

We might have day jobs that make it difficult to fit in writing time. We might not have supportive family or friends. We might struggle with limited funds to pursue our writing goals.

Everything in life requires sacrifice. Even if we have enough time, a supportive team, and plenty of money to spend on our writing (Ha!), we’ve probably had to give up something.

Maybe we’ve decided against watching that popular new TV show that would eat up the writing time we’ve so carefully carved out of our schedule. Or maybe we’ve decided against taking a family vacation that would steal our “publishing dream” savings.

Life is choices. And many times those choices bring us stress.

Should we do A or B? Which will make us happier? More fulfilled? Bring us closer to our goals?

I don’t know about you, but my birth certificate didn’t come with a crystal ball to see the future. So the uncertainties of which path to take add another layer of self-doubt. Sometimes we fear making the “wrong” decision so much that we do nothing.

How Can We Reclaim the Dream?

Maybe one way we can bring the dream back is to tie in more of our passions with our writing. If we discover our non-writing passions, we might be able to combine what brings us joy with writing and create a stronger, more meaningful dream.

Try answering these questions by thinking not only of your memories but also of your daydreams:

  • What do we love to do in addition to writing?
    Hobbies, family time, sports, travel, other dream careers, etc.
  • What things do we love to create?
    Arts/crafts, inventions, home and garden plans, etc.
  • How do we most enjoy time with other people?
    Teaching, listening, laughing, confiding, exploring, etc.
  • When have we enjoyed solving problems?
    Logical or human nature problems, our own problems or those of others, fixing things or filling a need, etc.
  • Where do we like to spend our time?
    Big events, small towns, cultural locations, deep in nature, etc.
  • Why do those things appeal to us?
    What is it about them that makes us happy? Is it the activity/place itself or the meaning behind the activity, etc.

Some authors write novels about knitting clubs or always include their favorite dog breed in their stories. Other authors set all their books in a special location.

When I was a child, I loved creating places and imagining the people who would live there, from my LEGO spaceships to my pencil-and-paper castle floor plans. That childhood passion fits my genre. Paranormal romance and urban fantasy allow me to write and bring in the other creative aspects of my personality.

Any answers that stand out to us might indicate that our passions lie along that path as well. Maybe the answers will help us find a genre that’s a better fit. Or if we incorporate that aspect in our writing, maybe our writing will feel more connected to our dreams.

At the very least, our answers might help us figure out our priorities. I know writers who dream of being a bestselling author simply because that’s what every other writer’s dream is. Yet talking to them reveals that they actually prioritize other passions above the sacrifices it would take to achieve that goal.

Questions like the above can help us find those mismatches between what we think we want and what we really want. And with each step we come closer to the priorities of our heart, the better the chances that we will feel like we’re living our dream—and yes, that everything is awesome. *smile*

Do you feel like you’re living out your dreams? Do you know your passions? How does writing compare to your other passions? Have you already combined those passions into writing, and if not, can you think of ways to combine them? Have you had that LEGO movie song stuck in your head like I have?

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Robyn LaRue March 6, 2014 at 7:40 am

I just posted on a parallel issue yesterday. 🙂 It’s been on my mind lately. Having a plan and keeping that plan up to date helps a ton when choosing between A and B, and I’m a huge fan of having a life because that makes our writing much richer. I think about these things because I’m prone to “tunnel vision” with projects and forget to balance the work of writing with the life of writing. 🙂


Jami Gold March 6, 2014 at 9:50 am

Hi Robyn,

I understand. 🙂 Plus, the publishing industry is changing so quickly that what was the best path to our goal last year might not be the best path anymore.

It’s enough to make the best of us crazy. LOL! Good luck figuring out your path and thanks for the comment!


Carradee March 6, 2014 at 8:21 am

I have an ingrained fear of success.

I have reason to believe that it stems from a mix of how I was raised + my personality. My parents are outright, um, dismissive if not outright discouraging, and as far as they’re concerned, disagreement = disrespect. I know that ending up a case in point that proves them wrong will result in them assuming that I sought to be that case in point out of disrespect, with the intention of proving them wrong, and they’ll accuse me of the same. (They’ve done that sort of thing before.)

So as much as I want to succeed, I also don’t want to, due to the emotional baggage I know that even moderate success will bring. (Note that, for me, “moderate success” is actually in the low five figures. I’ve grown up on the “poor” end of things, so the prospect of making six figures feels completely unbelievable to me…but I’ve made sure to plan what I’d do in a windfall situation, just in case.)

Ultimately, I quite often find my subconscious self-sabotaging me. I’ll think outright, “This should work if I do it any way but X” and then later realize I did X. When there are multiple tactics to achieve something, I often find myself doing the least likely to succeed.

Case in point: I have a 3rd novel in a series almost done—just needs the prologue—and am writing #4. Working on both of those is a struggle, because that’s the point when people often succeed, and I’ve planned particular likely-to-help marketing methods to put in place once those two come out. Usually, I can write a good 600 words in a single half-hour sitting.

Now? I’m struggling to write 250 words.

And the cause is the fear. I know where I’m headed. I want to have this done. I’m looking forward to it!

But the fear

I’m fighting the crippling effects of the fear, but it’s exhausting.

That said, I am working from home. I am freelancing. I’m even publishing speculative fiction! Those are three dreams that I’m living.

Now the goals are to make sufficient passive income from the fiction to pay all the bills and let me travel. I want to travel, maybe even globe-trot. I’ve actually been eyeing my things and considering what I can get rid of and what I’d absolutely need, if I wanted to go live in another country. I have a library of hundreds, maybe a good thousand, physical books…but the worst of it is the herbal concoctions. I make a lot of them myself—seriously, motherwort works a lot better than hormone pills for me, though I’m not entirely sure what motherwort does to the body—and I therefore suspect there would be problems trying to get those things through customs.


Robyn LaRue March 6, 2014 at 8:35 am

Carradee 🙁 I totally get it. Though my parents only told me repeatedly that I was nothing special and not the worse messages you received, I empathize. I was also raised by a generation that believed modesty equaled humble. Because I tend to always expect failure on some level, success is a scary thing.

Motherwort for estrogen? Interesting. I should try that!


Carradee March 6, 2014 at 8:59 am

In my parents’ case, they’re naturally so pessimistic and negative that I’ve been asked how I put up with it for 26 years. They think me naïve for believing that I may someday find a significant other with a different attitude.

Actually, the pills were progesterone. I started getting hot flashes at age 20, and my endocrine system’s screwed up. (Genetic condition.) Soy is actually plant estrogen, though.


Jami Gold March 6, 2014 at 10:03 am

Hi Carradee,

I’m so sorry you have to deal with your family being so discouraging. That any amount of success would be seen as rebelling against a declaration of imminent failure is…well, awful. 🙁

Writing is entirely too much work for too little reward to do for any purpose other than our own internal desires, and for anyone to ascribe other intentions behind all this work is crazy. There are much more efficient ways of rebelling if that was the purpose. 😉

That said, I’m entirely familiar with the fear you mention, and I find myself self-sabotaging in the same ways. I know what I need to do, and yet I find myself subconsciously prioritizing other things higher on my list of “things to do.”

While I’ll get to where I want to be eventually, it’s taking me way longer than I planned to take each step. Part of that delay is sheer busyness, but part of it is this priority issue.

I’m wishing you luck to overcome the problem, and maybe that will help me as well. 🙂 Good luck and thanks for the comment!


Becca March 6, 2014 at 10:05 am

Stepped in mud? Got new brown shoes!!


Jami Gold March 6, 2014 at 10:09 am

Hi Becca,

Exactly! The lyrics are hysterically forced optimistic–even beyond my natural Pollyanna attitude. LOL!

On the other hand, that one line about living our dream echoes what we hear from many sources, yet it’s not as simple as we’d like it to be. We can be living out our dream and still suffer from the day-to-day crap that drags our attitude down.

Sometimes, just reminding ourselves that we are living our dream might help restore our joy and see the forest for the trees. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!


Serena Yung March 6, 2014 at 11:47 am

Reading posts like this always makes me feel very grateful that I DO have passions in life. (Especially as many of my friends unfortunately don’t seem to have (a) passion(s). 🙁 ) Writing is obviously my greatest passion, but I also really love drawing, and science, and casual philosophy, and obviously PSYCHOLOGY! 😀 About writing in my passions into my stories, yes, from my obsession with psychology, I am CONSTANTLY exploring different people’s (characters’) personalities and relationships with each other. Yeah, personality, interpersonal relationships, and motivation (which for me is sort of in between personality and social psychology) are my favorite topics in psychology, so my stories are always centered on developing these. I don’t always explicitly talk about my characters’ personalities or relationships in my stories, but I do enjoy observing my characters’ actions and interactions so that I can analyze their psychologies, haha.

Apart from psychology, I find that my story characters are often artists (drawing), writers, poets, or art/ literature connoisseurs. Some are very interested in science too. So that’s weaving my passions into it. Many characters are bookworms as well, though I do have some protagonists who barely read at all, lol.

As for genres of stories I most like to write in, I’ve become very clear on this recently. They are: fantasy, sci-fi, action, and adventure. Or rather some combination of these. But recently I realized that the vast majority of my MAIN stories are adventure stories! Many with action as well. So it seems like my favorite genre is adventure! 😀 And I do indeed find it challenging to write a LONG story that has no adventure in it, lol.

Hmmm, aside from these passions in my life, I often write about my personal philosophies, beliefs, and values–though I try to look like I’m not preaching. XD Although preaching in stories is not inherently bad, because believe it or not, I actually LOVE being preached to in stories—the preaching parts are often my favorite parts too. Lol! So I loved the preachy passages in Black Beauty. 😀 (Horsies! ^O^) One philosophy that has really crept into my writing recently, is my beauty theory. My beauty theory basically says that everybody is actually equally physically attractive, but that our perceptions are biased towards preferring certain features over others, and that this is God’s way of controlling who gets attracted to whom, lol. I actually DID explicitly preach this through a character in a novella I wrote, and surprisingly, many of my readers said they LOVED that beauty theory. 😀 So that was encouraging. ^^ Nowadays I move onto a different aspect of my beauty theory. I think that physical attractiveness is COMPLETELY subjective, as you can never literally get EVERY SINGLE PERSON to agree on who’s most attractive or whether someone’s attractive. And I like playing with the concept of personality-induced-physical-attractiveness (PIPA). PIPA is sort of named after a cool character called Pippa in a story I read. Pippa is, by social standards, “plain-looking”. The hero acknowledges this, yet he thinks she’s really beautiful, probably because he was impressed by her personality or the personality she exuded from her body language.

So for the current story I’m writing, there is this popularly regarded as handsome guy, and the hero. The heroine does think that the popular guy is attractive, but she thinks he’s just an “ordinary swan.” But she thinks that the hero, in contrast, is a “blue phoenix”. On the other hand, a female friend of hers thinks that there is nothing remarkable about the hero’s looks, and the heroine’s thinking: <_< You are so weird that you can't see how hot he is. Lol! And the reason why the heroine finds the hero mega smoking hot (to put it in crude terms, lol), is because she is awed by his personality. I also think he has an amazing personality and don't blame the heroine for falling in love with him.

(For the record, I once drew a picture of my idea of what the handsomest boy in the world would look like, and when a female friend of mine looked at him, she said he was just "okay". (And she said this opinion had nothing to do with my drawing skills.) And I replied: How can you think that the most beautiful boy in the world is just "okay"??? Haha. So that just goes to show how physical attractiveness is super subjective.)

So there we have my "physical attractiveness is completely subjective" and the "PIPA personality-induced-physical-attractiveness" beliefs (my passions) written into my stories. Lol!

There are other subject matter that I enjoy writing about nowadays (they show my current interests or passions): opposite gendered close friendships that never turn romantic, friendships in general, breaking gender stereotypes and having gender atypical characters, men who are high or very high on femininity (I love feminine men :D), androgynous men i.e. men very high on both masculinity and femininity (I love androgynous men even more :D), androgynous or masculine females, very sociable characters, very antisocial characters, characters with relationship and communication problems with their parents…The list goes on.

As for my other passions/ preferences:

I definitely prefer writing fiction, though nonfiction is fun too. I much prefer long (like about 400 pages, lol) rather than short stories. For age category, I tend towards the late teens or early twenties (i.e. my own age). For mood and tone, it varies, as I've changed throughout my life and it's fun to keep changing—recently I have a problem of trying to stay serious in my tone instead of making fun of or satirizing my characters. XD (Though I think I told you this before already.)


Jami Gold March 6, 2014 at 4:14 pm

Hi Serena,

Ooo, yes, good point about psychology and the huge overlap with writing. 🙂

And I love the idea of calling “your” genre adventure. I see that applying for your various stories, no matter the setting. Great insight!

I absolutely agree with you on the subject of beauty–it is subjective! I can’t tell you how many celebrity guys I know women drool over that do ZERO for me. LOL! I love the idea of making that part of a story. 🙂 Thanks for sharing and thanks for the comment!


Serena Yung March 6, 2014 at 11:21 pm

Haha the “adventure” as a genre actually came from fanfiction, where one genre was “action/ adventure.” But as some of my stories only have adventure but no action, they can only be “adventure”s, lol.

“I can’t tell you how many celebrity guys I know women drool over that do ZERO for me.”

YES! Exactly! I experience the same thing very often! For instance, I don’t personally find Brad Pitt very attractive at all…No offense to Pitt fans. Just my personal idiosyncratic opinion!


Jami Gold March 7, 2014 at 9:02 am

Hi Serena,

LOL! Brad Pitt is hit-or-miss for me, depending on his level of shagginess and scruffiness. 😉 So Yes, I know just what you mean. Thanks for the comment!


Gary Kriss March 6, 2014 at 12:52 pm

Lovely piece, as usual, Jami and filled with your characteristic insightful advice. Very much akin to write about what you know.

Given this there’s also something to be said for writers living their nightmares, venturing off in unexplored directions that are often terrifying, at least at first. Obviously this is very much akin to writing about what you don’t know. Cloaking your writing with the comfort of things you like/enjoy can run the risk of ruining the pleasure they impart on a non-writing level. Or it could reduce your writing endeavors to one more of these purely pleasure providing things, a solitary satisfaction.

Leaving your comfort zone, while daunting, can lead to a deepening of intellect and a sharpening of technique. Frightening can be enlightening.

So, yes, live your dreams but, if you are to grow, also your nightmares. The eventual synthesis could well be a more unique style and a truly resonant voice.


Jami Gold March 6, 2014 at 4:20 pm

Hi Gary,

Very true! This is a different way of looking at the “write what you know” advice–one that’s less limiting. 🙂

As to your other point about pushing ourselves, I love exploring and learning, so the idea of travel appeals to me. However, the reality of travel often stresses me out. LOL!

So I enjoy setting stories in different locations to give me the excuse to “virtually” travel there. By the time I’m done with a story and have researched, Google Street View’ed, etc., I almost feel like I’ve been there. Or at the very least, I feel like if I did go there in real life, I’d be less intimidated. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!


Christina Hawthorne March 6, 2014 at 12:57 pm

The bad news is that my dream is in the City of Oz. The good news is that I just crash landed in Munchkin Land. 🙂


Jami Gold March 6, 2014 at 4:21 pm

Hi Christina,

LOL! Should I help you look for the ruby slippers? 🙂 Thanks for the laugh and the comment!


Nicole Grabner March 6, 2014 at 8:34 pm

Hi Jami,
I know we talked about this yesterday, but I thought I would mention again…the timing of these posts is unreal and perfect. I’m at this stage in my life when I’m considering some major changes and what is really important to me. Part of this discovery practice also includes things that I can or need to live without to achieve what matters most. But the fear of giving these things up is almost overwhelming. It’s great to have friends like you and Kristen, who write posts like this – it gives strength and support to those that need it. Thanks!


Jami Gold March 6, 2014 at 10:09 pm

Hi Nicole,

Aww, I’m so grateful for the support the writing community gives each other, so I know just what you mean. 🙂

Honestly, I think we need to reevaluate every so often normally. The industry changes so fast that what we thought would work 6 months ago might not be the best choice now. It’s a constant balancing act of goals and priorities. 🙂 Good luck and thanks for the comment!


Taurean Watkins March 7, 2014 at 9:35 am

All I’ve heard are the bits in the ads for the movie mentioned above and they alone make me never want to say the word “Awesome” again, as much as I appreciate the upbeat nature the song means to give.

I understand you had to do those posts about editors and the concerns you expressed were real ,especially if I HAD the money to hire editors, you outline what we, but at the same time, it did make me feel apprehensive about continuing to beta-read as someone who doesn’t know even a quarter of what you outline

This has less to do with what you wrote and more to do with asking myself “What do I offer as a beta-reader that helps even if it’s not what a pro editor can do?” and I still think a post on that is nessecary to compliment your counterstance on what constittues a great editor worth paying for.

I can’t write that post because I don’t have experience hiring editors myself and I’ve only had one editor (At my publisher) I’ve worked with so far, who is good and worth the 9 YEARS it took to sell my debut novel.

Just something to think about.

Unlike those above who fear success for their legit reasons, I frankly fear failure far more, and not just the usual “What if I don’t get an agent?” or “Will my book get reviewed?” stuff.

As far as injecting my other passions into my writing, I do that, but there can be issues with that.

In my current WIP has been pretty much a hodgepodge of everything I’ve thought, loathed and feared since dropping out of high school, crammed, and part of why I’ve yet to finish it.

Since I know I could not be in the “Testing Absolute” culture we live in now, my MC is a former teacher who while quitting to pursue a career that while more dangerous has FAR more freedom with no administrative or parental hoops to jump through.

Also, as I’ve mentioned elsewhere, I put my ambitions to be a chef behind when I learned the things that it entailed that I’m not good at (Being fast and high quality, always cheerful, working in a military-like envitorment that I would NEVER be able to adapt to, etc) so as consequence I write about food a lot.

A beta-reader I had for this book kind of made it clear my characters eat and drink too much. So there is s a danger/limit to how much of your other interests you can inject in your writing, just to warn you!

Finally, I have speak to the touchy subject of “Sacrifice” because while I don’t want to sound preachy, I’ve had some serious issues to work through on this part-

Sometimes we sacrifice so much for a goal (However necessary) that if we don’t make it happen, we’re left feeling hollow, and again I’d appreciate a post in the future about when sacrificing for our writing/publishing goals goes TOO FAR. It does, Jami, maybe for you and other authors who talk about sacrifice it’s more straightforward, but for me it’s not.

While this will sound like a joke and I don’t mean it to be, when you sacrifice all non-career things from your life, it has consequences, too, like feeling dead inside because if you don’t meet a goal despite what you gave up. Frivolity isn’t always a “dirty” word, Jami. It’s only when it takes us away from being overall self-disciplined.

Just my extremist way of saying “Fun that’s not always goal driven” doesn’t always have to be the enemy of responsibility.

I’ve had to relearn that during my self-imposed break that if I didn’t take I’d start to hate the career I want to be in, and you should know as well as I that’s not productive, either!

(I don’t feel this bad ANYMORE, Jami, just making a point!)

Have I cut back on TV? Sure. Can I ever eliminate all together? No. Because as I touched on in previous comments, when I can face books out of envy/inferiority issues on my part, I turn to other sources of entertainment that I don’t want to write or work in. Because it requires far more things I’m not good at or can stomach learning.

It’s easier to appreciate something for its own sake when you don’t want to do it yourself. As much as we may dislike various movies or television programs or video games, being able to create ones that engage others is NOT EASY, even the trashiest stuff we can think of still took skills, teamwork and resources we don’t have ourselves.


Jami Gold March 7, 2014 at 10:27 am

Hi Taurean,

LOL! I understand about the word “awesome.” I’ve used it for a while though, and I don’t think this is quite enough to break my habit. 🙂

As far as your question:

“What do I offer as a beta-reader that helps even if it’s not what a pro editor can do?”

I think that’s the wrong question. I’ve stated before that the main quality to look for in a beta reader is a critical eye. Beta readers aren’t expected to be as good as editors because they are free.

So I think the right question is: Can you read with a critical eye?

If so, you’re qualified to be a beta reader. And in your case, I know that answer is yes. 🙂

For beta readers, yes, they can learn how to improve their skills and try to catch more, but there’s no expectation that they’ll catch everything. In other words, don’t stress about not being as good as an editor–I think you offer more than you think you do. Editors should be off-the-charts better than most beta readers. 🙂

Good point about how we could include TOO much of our other passions in our writing! I think we have to remember that anything in our story should be relevant, and not just there because we think it’s cool.

You’re absolutely right about the utter emptiness we can feel when we sacrifice everything and still don’t meet a goal. If we reach our goals, it’s easier to say “yes, it was worth it.” But if we don’t, that’s nearly impossible.

I guess maybe the post I’d do about that is sacrificing only what you’re okay with losing. Kind of like how we shouldn’t loan money to friends unless we’re okay with never being repaid.

In other words, I support sacrificing things we can live without (especially for a time), like some TV, etc. But I wouldn’t recommend sacrificing things we can’t live without (unless we agree to a limited time and scope with other involved parties–and stick to that agreement).

That’s a struggle in trying to balance our lives, work vs. non-work, etc. And while I’m always re-balancing my life in that struggle, I’d never recommend that we “sacrifice” our life balance entirely. As you said, that way lies burnout and other issues. That’s not sacrifice–that’s setting a time bomb.

I hope that clarifies my advice. I might not have done a post about that before, so if I feel like I have more to say about not sacrificing everything, I’ll do one. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!


Angela D'Onofrio March 8, 2014 at 9:41 am

Thank you for this – reading this article and all the comments was such a great boost … and a reminder that I’m not the only one who, at the moment, is writing just to write because it’s such a part of who I am. I’ve been working on reclaiming the dream after having put it down for over a year now, and getting it back has felt SO GOOD that I know I was crazy for even stopping.

I’m slowly learning … while family have been pushing me to get published since I said I wanted to write, that’s not what I personally want or need right now … I just need to get it OUT, to create, to do this … publishing can and will happen in its own time, and just the simple act of being able to get my creations out of my head and into the world is enough to make everything awesome. Thanks to you and everyone else here who’ve helped me see I’m not the only one who feels this way: that the writing is its own reward and I don’t need a publisher or an editor for validation.


Jami Gold March 8, 2014 at 9:45 am

Hi Angela,

Yay! I’m glad you’ve been able to get back into writing and find support. 🙂

Like you said though, we have to figure out our own priorities. I did a post a month ago about whether we feel driven to pursue the business side of writing. Some of us just want to write for the art of it, and there’s nothing wrong with that choice. 🙂 Good luck and thanks for the comment!


Kathryn McKade March 8, 2014 at 1:14 pm

Great post, Jami, and very timely too. The ideas of ways to bring other passions into writing is wonderful, and will undoubtedly prove very useful down the line. Thank you! I’ve linked to this on my blog, too:


Jami Gold March 8, 2014 at 1:36 pm

Hi Kathryn,

You’re welcome! And thank you for sharing this post and thanks for the comment! 🙂


Gloria Oliver March 9, 2014 at 11:43 am

Everything is AWESOME!
Glad to see someone else plagued by that song. lol. Have ordered the CD so we can have the same song plaguing us in different music genres. Oh my! (Hubby is partial to the Robotic Version.) 🙂

Fun post about finding our passions, by the way. 🙂 (As long as they – thum thum thum – don’t become obsessions.) Heh heh


Jami Gold March 9, 2014 at 9:39 pm

Hi Gloria,

LOL! I have not yet subjected myself to the various versions beyond when I heard them during the movie. 🙂

And yes, passions becoming obsessions are a whole different genre. 😉 Thanks for the comment!


Shelly Chalmers March 10, 2014 at 12:45 pm

Hi Jami,
Great post, and fun website (I was poking around). 😉
In some ways, I wonder sometimes if knowing our passion is writing can be a mixed blessing. While it does make me sad to see friends living out relatively happy lives without ever identifying what their passion is, passions can also become so all consuming – never mind all the neuroses (ie: lack of confidence, self-doubt, self-sabotage, etc) that seem especially endemic among writers. Still, don’t suppose I’d rather lack that passion and keep finding new ones to keep define and redefine myself.
Thanks for the great post, have a great week, and happy writing to you. 🙂


Jami Gold March 10, 2014 at 10:34 pm

Hi Shelly,

It’s great to “see” you again! (We met at RWA10, if you don’t remember. 🙂 )

You’re right that we definitely have to keep our balance between our passions and the rest of our life, as well as balancing the healthy type of passions with the unhealthy kind. But as you said, I’d rather not live without my passions either. Been there, done that, and my life felt rather empty in comparison.

Thanks for stopping by and thanks for the comment! 🙂


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