November 28, 2013

The Best Reason to Blog – Part 4

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Today is Thanksgiving in the U.S. The day we eat too much food, roll our eyes at the antics of our extended family, and think about all the things we’re grateful for. Or in my case, see if I can resist seconds of mashed potatoes so I can justify another dessert.

This Thanksgiving post is now an annual tradition on my blog. Three years ago, I revealed that the best reason for me to blog is all of you. The post two years ago reiterated that point with my gratitude for all the friends I’ve made via blogging and social media. Last year, I confessed my love of the blogging format because of the connections possible. And gee, what a surprise! All of you are still the best reason to blog! *smile*

There have been plenty of times over the last 3 1/2 years when I didn’t feel like blogging. When I’d rather be relaxing. When I’d rather be writing fiction. But I push myself to blog anyway because of you.

Okay, that’s enough to make it seem like I’m a glutton for punishment or blogging out a sense of obligation. Or maybe that’s enough to make you feel guilty for those expectations. Where’s the inspirational message there? *grin*

In every case (and I do mean every case), after I blogged and posted, I’ve been grateful for that push of knowing you were there and happy I spent the time writing for the blog. I’m excited to share the post with you. I’m eager to hear your insights on the issue. I’m energized by the conversations triggered in the comments.

In short, while words like “obligation” can have a negative connotation, I don’t see it that way, at least not in this case. The obligation I might feel to live up to expectations here have pushed me to do better, do more, do things even when I don’t feel like it. And all those qualities are good for me to develop.

We might not feel like querying or marketing or doing taxes, but we need to do those too (unless we don’t want to be successful and stay out of prison *smile*). So we all have to find the motivation for things we don’t want to do.

I’m lucky to have you because you make me glad I’ve stuck with this blog. I haven’t gotten nearly that same amount of positive reinforcement for my queries. *sigh* So yes, I’m grateful for you. *smile*

Is there anything special you’re grateful for this year? Are there people who push you to a higher level by having high expectations of you? Do expectations stress you out or energize you? (Or does it depend?) Do you ever dread activities and then are glad you pushed through the dread to have the experience?

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Tamara LeBlanc
Tamara LeBlanc

I’m so glad you blog.
I’ve been overwhelmed with work, caring for my husband and kids and taking care of the house. I haven’t visited you very much lately at all.
I hope that soon I’ll have a little less stress and more time to log on and read your wise words.
Thank you, jami, for all you do for us. You’re a marvel!
Happy Thanksgiving!

Sara Litchfield

Wow I’m so glad you blog!! Without all the unbelievable help and info you share, I would have been a bit lost attacking NaNo for the first time… Instead I’m about to win in the next 2 days!! So, I’m thankful for *you*!!!

Even when I don’t feel like it, and even when I find excuses to put it off, I never put my blog off for more than a day or two at the most. It’s an obligation to myself to prove that I can commit to something. And once it’s out there, especially when there’s positive feedback, but even when there’s none, I don’t regret it.

There’s nothing wrong with fulfilling obligations when those obligations are fulfilling 🙂

Serena Yung
Serena Yung

Aw! This is such a sweet post. ^^ I keep commenting on this blog BECAUSE you care so much about us and always reply too. ^^ I always look forward to see what you have to say. Something special that I’m grateful for this year? Yes! I made two really awesome close friends, and you know how hard to come by close friends are! :D. It’s remarkable how my friendships with these two wonderful people have developed and deepened so quickly too! Something in our personalities made us so compatible with each other that we find each other so easy and pleasant to talk to. :D. Plus, our closeness is such that we can talk about basically anything with each other, and we’ve told one another many of our secrets already… It’s not easy to find friends you feel comfortable enough with to confide in! Making these two new close friends is additionally great because almost all of my close friends have graduated and have gone back home, whilst I still have one more year in university (I switched my major from biochem to psych); so without these two new friends, I would be virtually left all alone! (I’d still have my casual friends, but casual friends are casual, so they’re not the type you hang out with all the time and share secrets with, you know?) High expectations…my parents have very low expectations for me. XD. They keep worrying that I’m getting too obsessed with getting As that I’m…  — Read More »


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Tamara LeBlanc
Tamara LeBlanc

Jami, thank you for the prayers. We appreciate them more than you know. Hope you had a great thanksgiving!
Hugs and love,
Tamara 🙂


Your blog is actually remarkably useful for me, for helping me keep track of what day of the week it is. Since I just moved into an apartment on my own, I’ll probably be setting up more such Oh, that’s what day it is! safeguards.

*clears throat* I work from home, okay? You try performing a heavy edit on a 100k-word novel in 3 days and then telling me what day it is without looking it up. 🙂

But as for special things I’m grateful for the year…the apartment. It’s an added stressor, but I think it’ll be better for me overall. *deep breath* Suffice to say that my family is fantastic at assigning meaning and motive that completely differ from what you actually said, insisting it’s what you meant…among other things that are only made worse by my mother’s probable depression and possible PTSD and OCD. She’s even upset that, after she demanded my new apartment’s spare key, I asked “Why?” instead of handing it over.

*wry smile* When the family’s making me start to question my sanity, this is one of the places I can poke in and remind myself that I’m not crazy or unreasonable (or angry, spiteful, hateful, etc.)—no matter how much my family tries to tell me I am.

I also like how you often ask questions that lead to me talking through story things in ways that often lead to “Eureka!” moments.

Thanks, Jami. 🙂

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